Hear me out: making new friends, especially when you’re a parent, is weird.
Being a mom of a toddler means endless variations of outings: playgrounds, indoor play centers, libraries, daycare events, little gyms, family-friendly restaurants and breweries, festivals, and local mom meet-ups. Everywhere I go, I’m surrounded by other moms who, in theory, should get me—they’re navigating the same chaotic, messy, beautiful journey of motherhood. And yet, I still find it so hard to truly connect.
Honestly, I think part of this struggle traces back to my childhood and young adulthood, where I’ve always had a hard time building lasting friendships. So now, as a mom, I’m realizing that it’s something I’m still working through. Any advice or tips are welcome!
I’ve never been one to easily make new friends or feel like I truly belong in a group. Even when I played on a sports team, joined a club, or worked on a big project with others, I could count my close friends on one hand—maybe two. I’ve always been independent, reserved, and a bit of an introvert. When I did find someone I clicked with, it always felt more relaxed—though I’m still not sure what “pressure” I’m even feeling or referring to.
Is it insecurity? Maybe just part of my personality? Whatever it is, it’s definitely harder now, in my thirties, than it was back when I was a kid.
To all the parents out there who feel the same way—sending you all my good energy as we navigate the awkwardness, the overwhelm, and the push to keep putting ourselves out there.